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I always heard you do the majority of your growing up between ages 25-30 & this sentiment couldn't be any further from the truth. I have always been blessed to have a large circle of friends & confidantes, & I always wondered what could possibly scatter such a loving group of people.

Life has ways of doing just that & the quicker one comes to grips with that, the blow is lessened when it's delivered...

Someone close to you follows their dream & uproots,  leaping headlong to capture it, leaving you to follow your own path...

Someone stops lying to themselves about who they are & embraces their true nature & is assimilated into the culture that surrounds their liberated persona...

Someone puts honor & patriotism higher than they ever have & is flung worlds away from you to protect the country they love...

Someone feels as they were always a lone wolf to begin with & exercises this to the full extent ...and disappears....

Someone lets better judgement slide & causes divides that run deep throughout everyone in the circle....

And worst of all, someone you know more than anyone else, who knows you more than yourself, changes into some you no longer recognize. Every utterance laced in lies & their word can no longer be accepted for truth.

And suddenly, as the dust settles, you've reached 30. The circle has grown smaller, smaller than it's ever been. Those remaining are your true friends. And I still have so many to be grateful for.

I know there's a lot of young people on here, maybe some young ones who watch me. Keep your friends close to you, but be aware, one day, things may change. Don't let it surprise you.


No one was born into this world to be alone.
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afearsome Featured By Owner Jul 24, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
It definitely sucks when someone comes into your life and makes such an awesome impact...and then leaves...and if you've ever been the person leaving...then you know that you have to do what is best for you. Sometimes it takes removing yourself from a situation to completely know what you want. Different perspective is always more helpful than staying in the same place. It really sucks when, in leaving, hearts are broken...but always always always learning from each different experience and what that person/those people gave of themselves to you. Even though it seems rough, I hope you are able to find friendship with some of those broken ties...eventually. Time does heal...but that's just it...it takes time. Things may never be the same again, but respecting what time can do to bandage the gap the humans created can do magnificent things. I'm sorry you are going through this...I know it is in the past by now and I know I'm late in responding to this post...but things always bubble up in the mind from time to time. Be happy (or as happy as you can) for those that have come in and out of your life...you wouldn't be who you are today without their influence...and they wouldn't be who they are without yours.
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datrain Featured By Owner May 30, 2012
i would love to see this side of u posted more...or perhaps i have been missing it. i read the whole thing
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liquidxlead Featured By Owner May 30, 2012
Thanks :)
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JoniVera Featured By Owner May 16, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'm a few months away from 25..already seeing everyone's true colors. Not sure if because of my age or the people themselves. Either way, it's interesting how things happen.
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Ojunix Featured By Owner May 11, 2012
Awww this made me sad ;~; but truthful :tighthug: I hope you don't mind if I Hug you
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Defender-of-Chaos Featured By Owner May 9, 2012   Traditional Artist
Wow, I almost started putting names for each of these descriptions. . . You really make me not want to grow old anymore -though, I'm 28, so I don't want to get old anyway...

Either way, I can feel some of that. Enough that I've stopped thinking of people as friends, they are more like partners in life... like people that go in the same direction as me for a while, but will take another road eventually and forget about me... I will thank them for their time and memories shared, but nothing else.
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DoctorOno Featured By Owner May 9, 2012
Given what you have written, you are indeed quite blessed. I never had such a circle of friends, and during those particular years (25-30), I only had a few close friends, whom I have since alienated with my particular life decisions (most of them being made during times of crisis, and therefore bad judgment in most cases). To be honest, most of my maturing actually did come during those years, but the truth is that I haven't stopped learning new things, and continuing to mature as a person.
This year, I will be celebrating my 48th birthday, and in retrospect, I find myself often wishing to go back to a much earlier time in my life to have a re-do; depending on my mood, the earlier the better. I often find myself quite disappointed with where I have allowed the fickle currents in the ocean of life to take me, having sold off the sails and rudder so I could make ends meet...
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KevMcC Featured By Owner May 9, 2012
That was deep but 100% real. Thanks for sharing this.
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liquidxlead Featured By Owner May 9, 2012
Np, Kev
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Bfetish Featured By Owner May 8, 2012  Professional Traditional Artist
I feel Furstreak put it best. I can relate to what Shrapnel Jones said about some people refusing to change. But at the same time you shouldn't excuse being an asshole as being a part of the change process. I lost a few friends this way but it wasn't my choice it was their choice because they didn't want to associate with me anymore.

I've learned over my 30 plus years that most of the time you don't choose your friends,your friends choose you. Barkis is right in saying that it never stops. People will come in and come out of your life so often. As human beings we are very selfish in nature. And when we finally decide on what we want and who we want to be in life then that selfishness gets worse.

TerraRed is also correct in saying that most people you bring into your life are not really true friends. We forms relationships based on convienience all the time.Whether we need or use certain people to get what want. We are all guilty of it in some way or form.

I've spent most of my teenage yrs and my 20's trying to be popular and liked by others.Even now I still seek validation from others.But that's me and my issues with low self esteem.

I went through my bitter phase in which it seems Shrapnel Jones is going through now. Where you just get annoyed with many of those around you.Now I just takes things as they come. You learn to adapt to most the shit life throws at you in some way or form.
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furstreak Featured By Owner May 8, 2012
I can follow this. I have had a hard life. Moving from one place to another as a child. Constantly struggling to get by. Upon graduating highschool and moving away to college did i finally see how hard it was for my parents to raise my sister and I. I supported myself with a full time job while going to school full time. It was hard and i was also hooked on Everquest for playstation 2. I didnt do much homework and struggled to get by in school. I made ok grades but could have made A's if i hadnt played video games all the time. I graduated though after 2 long years. rented a town house and moved in with my fiance at the time. We worked long hours but i still played that game. I finally quit after almost 6 years playing it and being threatened with divorce from my wife. From that moment on I changed. I quit watching TV entirely. Ive spent all my time learning more and more about what i was taught in school. I am now a graphic artist in a tattoo studio, as well as a tattooist albeit a newbie tattooist. But life is hard regardless of who you are. Being rich will dull you to the world. Being poor causes you to accept humility far more often than a rich person would. Being middle class is hard enough so you can live comfortably. As well as the place you live in. The town i live in is small. My family moved here when i was around 10 years old. They made a name for themselves and now were are one of the top 10 known families here. We dont take shit and we dont give shit. Although still hard our name still lives on.

In essence, you strive to make a name for yourself and your loved ones. You work hard to make life more comfortable for your loved ones all the while sacrificng yourself to do so. Being a great person does not come without a price. Remember that.
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Francoyovich Featured By Owner May 8, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
Nice words man, I'm still far from being 30, but I kinda see myself in some of the things you said... feels good in some way.
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jobeyonekinobe Featured By Owner May 8, 2012
I know what you mean, after highschool my friends(basically the D&D club) and I just kinda went our separate ways. Now it's been almost four years and I haven't gone to college, I'm living with my parents, and I work as a crossing guard... Oh and I can't drive, could have gotten my license already but cars terrify me, especially behind the wheel.
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leviadragon99 Featured By Owner May 8, 2012
Huh... well that's really depressing then... though from another perspective you could argue that you never stop growing up.
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tekena1200 Featured By Owner May 7, 2012  Student Traditional Artist
I'm 22 and I`ve found out that I surrounded myself with a circle of jerks. I don`t like being a lone wolf, it makes my dad think that I should make friends with his friends who are just a bigger older cicrle.
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Dark-Blue-Abaddon Featured By Owner May 7, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
interesting
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SlimeKingKtW Featured By Owner May 7, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm 25. I'd suppose I'm one of those lone wolves. At least offline-wise... It's hard living in southern West Virginia when you have no interest in cars, 4-wheelers, sports, or overdrinking.

I've never really been in a situation where I felt I belonged. *shrug* I'd rather be a weirdo that knows what he loves to do than someone that just goes with everyone else.

I have friends online, and I'd LOVE to have them be near me, or be near them. Once I get a car, things will likely change. until then... I'll continue plopping out whatever titties comes into my head.
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DoctorOno Featured By Owner May 9, 2012
That's Coal Country down that way -- how's the landscape looking? I hear about mountain-top removal, but have no idea what that's like up close and personal.
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SlimeKingKtW Featured By Owner May 9, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
It's WAY more ecological than the politicians let on... after removing parts of the mountain for strip mining, they replace trees and grass... Unlike other countries that tear down with no plans to replace the destruction with anything other than minimalls or what have you.
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DoctorOno Featured By Owner May 9, 2012
Not to mention that they dump the waste into streams and rivers, destroying that part of the landscape as well...and no one has the money or will to challenge the coal companies.
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Barkis1 Featured By Owner May 7, 2012
Take it from someone double your age, it never stops.
Don't forget - you change also...
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goku262002 Featured By Owner May 7, 2012
Truer words have never been said. thanks for the uplift today.
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Toukatsu Featured By Owner May 7, 2012
That was deep man and there was much truth in your words.
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Rasheedzee Featured By Owner May 7, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
So very very true...
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DanHowardArt Featured By Owner May 7, 2012
having been , for lack of a better way of putting it, stabbed in the back not too long ago by someone i presumed to be very, very special in my life, yeah...i feel you, man
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liquidxlead Featured By Owner May 7, 2012
Yeah, that's definitely tectonic to the stability of one's life. Thanks for the sympathy, Kuro :highfive:
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Shrapnel-Jones Featured By Owner May 7, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
people change. If someone drifts away from you because of change, then it isn't really something to be hung up about.

I'm 18 and have changed a lot in the past few years. old friends have come to hate who i've become, new friends have come and gone, i've ghosted inbetween close circles of friends and have never really felt that i don't belong somewhere, because when i do feel i shouldn't be somewhere, I listen to that instinct and end relationships.

I have more issues with people who DON'T seem to change after years and years...Talk about boring!

old acquaintances tell me i've gone crazy and new friends tell me i'm the most sensible person they know, but most importantly I don't let the thoughts of others rule who I am or what I do. I'm myself and whoever that invites or scares away shouldn't be a priority to hold. It just happens.

Death of things are every bit as common as their births and lives. We don't live in the past, but in the present, waiting for the future to happen. Some people can't get over this. i still get messages from people i've come to dislike over years of friendship, asking me what's wrong with me, why i'm such an asshole, why I dont have time for them any more.

I make it clear, too. I don't like them. I don't like communicating with them, don't like their opinions or their beliefs or their attitudes.

But some people just refuse to change.
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liquidxlead Featured By Owner May 7, 2012
Haha, nice insight Shrapnel. A great deal of truth in what you posted, man. Thanks
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TerraRed Featured By Owner May 7, 2012
Yeah problem is most "friends" you'll have aren't real friends. Very rarely will you find a true friend.
Most are there because they have a use for you. Once that's gone they are. I've had it happen to
me so many times in my 30 years. Artists that went to art school, programers, etc etc. And if it's not
that they're always "too busy" too.

Believe me I've really tried and continue to try and find real friends. But it's very very hard in this
world as people get worse and worse. I could honestly use a break from it all. Even if you like the
same things that doesn't mean you'll get along too. Believe me it hurts like hell emotionally too.

Not trying to upset you or anyone here. Just you're post here reminded me of all this in my life as
well. That "growing up" is about right too. But even then some still don't. Common sense is really
lacking today. And pride/ego a lot of the time makes things a LOT more difficult than they should be.
And I know I am VERY far from perfect and never will claim to be. I will make mistakes and in the
future too I know. I just try my best.
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liquidxlead Featured By Owner May 7, 2012
Thanks Terra
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TerraRed Featured By Owner May 7, 2012
Not a problem. You're post really made me think about a LOT of things.
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Midnitez-REMIX Featured By Owner May 7, 2012  Student Digital Artist
That's deep man.
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Honeysan Featured By Owner May 7, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
This has really touched me. Thank you for sharing it.
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liquidxlead Featured By Owner May 7, 2012
Thanks for taking time to read Honey-chwan :heart:
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Honeysan Featured By Owner May 7, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Of course! *heeeheee* You are so cute, thank you!
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shikamaruluffy Featured By Owner May 7, 2012  Hobbyist Artist
:O your awesome! *glomps hardcore*
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