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I always heard you do the majority of your growing up between ages 25-30 & this sentiment couldn't be any further from the truth. I have always been blessed to have a large circle of friends & confidantes, & I always wondered what could possibly scatter such a loving group of people.

Life has ways of doing just that & the quicker one comes to grips with that, the blow is lessened when it's delivered...

Someone close to you follows their dream & uproots,  leaping headlong to capture it, leaving you to follow your own path...

Someone stops lying to themselves about who they are & embraces their true nature & is assimilated into the culture that surrounds their liberated persona...

Someone puts honor & patriotism higher than they ever have & is flung worlds away from you to protect the country they love...

Someone feels as they were always a lone wolf to begin with & exercises this to the full extent ...and disappears....

Someone lets better judgement slide & causes divides that run deep throughout everyone in the circle....

And worst of all, someone you know more than anyone else, who knows you more than yourself, changes into some you no longer recognize. Every utterance laced in lies & their word can no longer be accepted for truth.

And suddenly, as the dust settles, you've reached 30. The circle has grown smaller, smaller than it's ever been. Those remaining are your true friends. And I still have so many to be grateful for.

I know there's a lot of young people on here, maybe some young ones who watch me. Keep your friends close to you, but be aware, one day, things may change. Don't let it surprise you.


No one was born into this world to be alone.
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afearsome Featured By Owner Jul 24, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
It definitely sucks when someone comes into your life and makes such an awesome impact...and then leaves...and if you've ever been the person leaving...then you know that you have to do what is best for you. Sometimes it takes removing yourself from a situation to completely know what you want. Different perspective is always more helpful than staying in the same place. It really sucks when, in leaving, hearts are broken...but always always always learning from each different experience and what that person/those people gave of themselves to you. Even though it seems rough, I hope you are able to find friendship with some of those broken ties...eventually. Time does heal...but that's just it...it takes time. Things may never be the same again, but respecting what time can do to bandage the gap the humans created can do magnificent things. I'm sorry you are going through this...I know it is in the past by now and I know I'm late in responding to this post...but things always bubble up in the mind from time to time. Be happy (or as happy as you can) for those that have come in and out of your life...you wouldn't be who you are today without their influence...and they wouldn't be who they are without yours.
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datrain Featured By Owner May 30, 2012
i would love to see this side of u posted more...or perhaps i have been missing it. i read the whole thing
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liquidxlead Featured By Owner May 30, 2012
Thanks :)
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JoniVera Featured By Owner May 16, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'm a few months away from 25..already seeing everyone's true colors. Not sure if because of my age or the people themselves. Either way, it's interesting how things happen.
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Ojunix Featured By Owner May 11, 2012
Awww this made me sad ;~; but truthful :tighthug: I hope you don't mind if I Hug you
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Defender-of-Chaos Featured By Owner May 9, 2012   Traditional Artist
Wow, I almost started putting names for each of these descriptions. . . You really make me not want to grow old anymore -though, I'm 28, so I don't want to get old anyway...

Either way, I can feel some of that. Enough that I've stopped thinking of people as friends, they are more like partners in life... like people that go in the same direction as me for a while, but will take another road eventually and forget about me... I will thank them for their time and memories shared, but nothing else.
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DoctorOno Featured By Owner May 9, 2012
Given what you have written, you are indeed quite blessed. I never had such a circle of friends, and during those particular years (25-30), I only had a few close friends, whom I have since alienated with my particular life decisions (most of them being made during times of crisis, and therefore bad judgment in most cases). To be honest, most of my maturing actually did come during those years, but the truth is that I haven't stopped learning new things, and continuing to mature as a person.
This year, I will be celebrating my 48th birthday, and in retrospect, I find myself often wishing to go back to a much earlier time in my life to have a re-do; depending on my mood, the earlier the better. I often find myself quite disappointed with where I have allowed the fickle currents in the ocean of life to take me, having sold off the sails and rudder so I could make ends meet...
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KevMcC Featured By Owner May 9, 2012
That was deep but 100% real. Thanks for sharing this.
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liquidxlead Featured By Owner May 9, 2012
Np, Kev
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Bfetish Featured By Owner May 8, 2012  Professional Traditional Artist
I feel Furstreak put it best. I can relate to what Shrapnel Jones said about some people refusing to change. But at the same time you shouldn't excuse being an asshole as being a part of the change process. I lost a few friends this way but it wasn't my choice it was their choice because they didn't want to associate with me anymore.

I've learned over my 30 plus years that most of the time you don't choose your friends,your friends choose you. Barkis is right in saying that it never stops. People will come in and come out of your life so often. As human beings we are very selfish in nature. And when we finally decide on what we want and who we want to be in life then that selfishness gets worse.

TerraRed is also correct in saying that most people you bring into your life are not really true friends. We forms relationships based on convienience all the time.Whether we need or use certain people to get what want. We are all guilty of it in some way or form.

I've spent most of my teenage yrs and my 20's trying to be popular and liked by others.Even now I still seek validation from others.But that's me and my issues with low self esteem.

I went through my bitter phase in which it seems Shrapnel Jones is going through now. Where you just get annoyed with many of those around you.Now I just takes things as they come. You learn to adapt to most the shit life throws at you in some way or form.
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